Posts Tagged ‘adoption’

As Rebekah turns 7 . . .

August 9, 2011 Leave a comment

Seven years ago, somewhere around Fenyi, Jianxi Province in the People’s Republic of China, a woman gave birth to a little girl. And that’s about all I know about her. Except that, five days later, she left that little girl at the gate of the Fenyi County Social Welfare Institute in the middle of the night. A year later, I got to help that little girl tear into her first birthday cake. Today, I was the dad wandering around taking pictures as she  celebrated her seventh birthday with cake and bears and family and friends everywhere.

Every year, on Rebekah’s birthday, I can’t help but think about that birth mother (and father?). I wonder who they are, where they are, what they do. And I wonder if, on a day like today, they think about that little girl and wonder about her and the life she has. I wish there was some way to let them know that she is beautiful, and brilliant, and fun, and loving, and full of energy, and surrounded by people who love her desperately. But there isn’t. So on nights like this, I find myself praying for them. I thank God that they made the decision to bring my daughter into the world and to leave her somewhere they knew she would be found. I pray that no one ever found out that they left her at that gate. I pray that they’re happy and healthy and have enough to get by everyday without struggle. I pray that somewhere along the way, someone told them about the life and the love of Jesus, and that they found him worth chasing. And I pray that, somehow, they would know that the little girl they left behind is a daughter, and sister, and granddaughter, and great-granddaughter, and niece, and cousin, and friend to more people than I can possibly count.

Happy birthday to my amazing seven year old. Daddy loves you.


ni hao kai-lan – the weekly(ish) whah?!?

February 9, 2008 2 comments

OK, Nick Jr has a new show. It’s called “ni hao kai-lan”. I’m sure they are hoping that Kai-Lan will do for Chinese language and culture what Dora the Explorer has done for Spanish. Here’s my problem. Here’s a picture of Kai-Lan. Is there anything about her that seems a bit odd for a little Chinese girl?

Now I applaud Nick Jr for creating a show about a Chinese girl. The show looks great and the thoughts behind it are wonderful for a biracial family like ours. My daughter is nuts for her after only two episodes and I’m sure the merchandise is soon to start flowing. But I don’t understand why we have to give the Chinese girl the biggest, roundest eyes of any character on Nick (except maybe Spongebob). Maybe it’s too subtle for young kids to catch, but doesn’t it tend to reinforce the “differentness” already experienced by Chinese girls (especially adopted ones) in white culture? Rebekah is only three – she won’t get it now, but one of these days. . .

photo of the week – special guest contributor

November 6, 2007 Leave a comment

In honor of Caleb’s 11th birthday today – a picture he took of his siblings.

Our Couch – 10/13/07
Image by Caleb Hall

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